The Power of the 7 Year Rule

How do you mark your life? Sometimes it’s easy to use decades by age, 10-90.  But if you do this you only have 10 decades at most, and you tend to clump the 0-30 as being the prime, glory years and the 50-90 years together as the “I don’t know what I’ll be doing at that time but whatever” years.

I choose the power of applying the 7 year rule to look at your life.  I did this earlier today and it gave me an important reminder of how to live a little happier.

I was 17 once.  A confused, heavy eye make up wearing, cigarette smoking, 17 year old child.  7 years later I’m an alumni from a university, spent a year abroad, traveller, blogger, worried about my career and relationships.

Then I got to thinking…

Where the hellll will I be when I’m 31, 7 years from now? Probably light years away from where I am right now.  Before I was 17 I was 10, haha and I’m pretty certain my interests, worries, conversations with people were far different than 17.  Before 10 I was 3, I don’t think worries even existed.  So I wrote it all out.

3           10           17           24             31               38              45              52             59            66              73             80          87

Then I crossed out 3, 10, and 17.  I am 23 still so I still didn’t cross out 24, but look HOW MANY multiples of 7 there are after 24.  That’s a lot…and if I get stuck or depressed about something small here at the right before 24 mark…SHOOT! That’s a lot of life to be depressed and stuck.

My idea of success is to be 80 years old and happy, fulfilled, and ridiculously satisfied at the life I’ve lived and everyday that I’ve spent on this earth.  After writing down this chart (I did this on my shower glass because that’s where this profound idea just randomly struck me) my perspective shifted.  I realized I need to care less, realized that the little hells we face everyday WILL pass and be a distant memory, I need to keep going so that I can achieve my goal of being the happiest, craziest 80 year old woman that ever lived.  It’s not even an “I should probably relax, not freak out, and just move on: I NEED TO.”

Relax. There’s still so much more to come. 


Be nice to yourself. It’s hard to be happy when someone is mean to you all the time.

Christine Arylo

Happiness Killer #1: Comparing to Others

Why it’s bad: 

We forget our uniqueness. How cool is it that there’s NO one else on this world LIKE you. You are literally so many things all at once and no one CAN compare. It literally is just not right to do.  It’s like comparing peanut butter to a gourmet steak, there’s actually no comparison and it’s time we acknowledge that and own it.  

We get stuck.  Sometimes we don’t even get started because we’re afraid that someone else is doing it better.  This is one of the worst debilitating effects on our lives or our projects and dreams.  Make competition work for you, fuel you and put fire under you to GET started.

No one can compare fairly and justly.  It’s a waste of time.  I read the book the Sport of Business by Mavs owner Mark Cuban and he said that once he became successful all people saw was the success, they didn’t see or weren’t interested in the very real struggle of being poor, overweight, and miserable.  Even the most successful people have been to the darkest places you will never be able to see. Comparing doesn’t ever match up. 

There’s too much emphasis going on other people when you really should be focusing on yourself and improving yourself! Please don’t  get stuck in the comparing game that I have for so many years.  It’s still something I can improve on, let’s do it together!