I’ve struggled for the past three years straight in post grad life and now I’m here at this point, looking at those who are graduating now. I feel like I have so much to impart on them. I feel like it’s my life calling to analyze those defining years and delve into how we can not feel like we’re swimming or floundering in a tsunami while engulfed in flames.
Here are some things I would say:
1. Your first job is not your always job.
Job. That is probably your first concern because it’s the first time in your life where you’re really addressed with that concept. First grade whims fall to the side and you want something that will make you a real-life citizen. I remember I grabbed whatever was there. I was like you’ll hire me? Okay. I hated some of my decisions but I learned. I learned a lot.
I have this analogy of…. hating a haircut. And my boss said something similar in a meeting. “You don’t know until you know.” I didn’t know that I hated short hair, until I cut my hair short. You sort of have to DO to realize what you hate. Which is ultimately extremely useful knowledge for you moving forward. I will never have short hair again for the rest of my life on earth.
Jobs are similar. If you start out in your first job and you realize this isn’t for you. Don’t despair but view it as useful information and update your LinkedIn profile and make RELATIONSHIPS.
2. Make relationships.
Relationships are so key. Relationships are your foot in the door. They are the loopholes. Have you ever played Mario Kart? Do you know those secret shortcuts where no one else really knows about it but you enter that secret passage and end up way farther than you would have if you didn’t? That shortcut is also known as ‘making relationships’ in your career track. My Mario Kart secret shortcut is a very influential woman in my life named Maribel. My relationship with her has rendered me very useful and trustworthy, without me doing A THING. I’ve met people who I’ve wanted jobs from and literally the words out of their mouth “You know Maribel. She’s great. You must be great. I trust you.”
And the cool thing about making relationships is that you don’t have to stress too much about the online applications and cold e-mails. You focus on making really good and solid relationships and then you pick a field you like and look at who could help you in your circle and just shoot them an e-mail. People intrinsically love to help people. Have that work in your favor.
3. Enjoy Now
This is a crucial time to see what you have going for you. Because so much is not going for you (let’s be honest)… and it’s easy to focus on that… Your utter confusion on things like ‘Who do I want to be’ and ‘I hate my day job’ or ‘I am single and will die alone’ can depress you if you let it. But you must enjoy now, enjoy the moment in front of you, put down your phone, stop comparing, stop worrying, ENJOY. Enjoy those damn twenties. Don’t let them escape you amidst the worry and struggle. I just don’t want you to look back and then see all your potential and wish you were more confident or more something. You are enough right now. You got this. You’re doing so well.
“There are times in the lives of most of us, when we would have given all the world to be as we were but yesterday, though that yesterday had passed over us unappreciated and unenjoyed.”
― William Edward Hartpole Lecky